“I am not perfect.” This is a very common statement I hear from many people coming from the notion that as human beings, perfection can never be attained. But, I claim the opposite of this. I am PERFECT! When my Creator made me, He had a vision of perfection because He is perfect Himself. My “deficiencies” as the human eyes see them are not really limitations, they are just part of my whole being that serve a purpose. I gladly embrace both my weaknesses and strengths now and it is giving me a greater sense of power.
This breakthrough did not however happen so easily. The journey before this momentous stop-over was long and arduous because my self-criticizing eyes made it a struggle for me to accept my self’s true nature. It was difficult for I examined myself based on what I saw from others and I measured up myself against the standards of which I was wrongly placed. More than this, I looked at myself as fragmented aspects, not integrated, not in connection with each other.
So I went through a lot of stress to suit to the “standards” which I was quite successful at some point. But, I could not be perfectly consistent in meeting the excellent standards in all areas. As a result, many times, I was angry with myself, frustrated with myself and unhappy with myself.
Then one day I woke-up to the fact that most of my great works and ideas were dawning during manifestations of certain weaknesses. I also recalled the several times when I was put to an advantage with some of my frailties. So, I paused and confronted myself: Hey, why have I allowed myself to be imprisoned with this self-destructing paradigm? There is nothing wrong with me! This is how I am made and wired and I should honor this person in me!
This epiphany made me dare to assert myself. I wrecked the surrounding walls made of unreasonable cultural structures, religious orientations and the society’s norm of the so called standards of beauty and excellence that covered my sight to fully see and appreciate my SELF and MY POSITION IN THIS WORLD. I freed myself from the never ending suggestions of the changes I need to make and the guidelines of DON’TS which were exhausting to my spirit. I liberated myself from the criticisms coming from the men who could not be pleased with my physical qualities, that did not only undermine my esteem, they were killing my identity. My only guideline to follow now is to be happy with who I really am while I respect the rights of other people to be also happy. As I believe that learning is continuous, I make improvements but these should only bring me closer to the best version of myself.
Now, I am not only delightfully viewing the breadth of the beauty of this world, I am savoring this meaningful sense of completeness in me. I see the beauty in me even with those considered as imperfections or flaws. For these so called imperfections complete the loveliness in me. They are part of my charming attributes. In combination with my other traits, they make me the whole unique special package!
I now declare my meaningful perfect beauty to the world and my true love affair with myself. I am now embracing the whole of me and treating it with much kindness and care – the authentic ME that used to be covered with fears, disappointments and insecurities for years of not getting perfect in all aspects of my person against other people’s standards and that of the world. With this liberation, I am seeing more meaning in everything that is about me. I see that everything has a value. Everything in me is connected for it contributes to the mission I am called to do. I am called to love and inspire others and I am enough for this task. I am perfect for the purpose of which I am made.
- Minerva C. Roiles
This breakthrough did not however happen so easily. The journey before this momentous stop-over was long and arduous because my self-criticizing eyes made it a struggle for me to accept my self’s true nature. It was difficult for I examined myself based on what I saw from others and I measured up myself against the standards of which I was wrongly placed. More than this, I looked at myself as fragmented aspects, not integrated, not in connection with each other.
So I went through a lot of stress to suit to the “standards” which I was quite successful at some point. But, I could not be perfectly consistent in meeting the excellent standards in all areas. As a result, many times, I was angry with myself, frustrated with myself and unhappy with myself.
Then one day I woke-up to the fact that most of my great works and ideas were dawning during manifestations of certain weaknesses. I also recalled the several times when I was put to an advantage with some of my frailties. So, I paused and confronted myself: Hey, why have I allowed myself to be imprisoned with this self-destructing paradigm? There is nothing wrong with me! This is how I am made and wired and I should honor this person in me!
This epiphany made me dare to assert myself. I wrecked the surrounding walls made of unreasonable cultural structures, religious orientations and the society’s norm of the so called standards of beauty and excellence that covered my sight to fully see and appreciate my SELF and MY POSITION IN THIS WORLD. I freed myself from the never ending suggestions of the changes I need to make and the guidelines of DON’TS which were exhausting to my spirit. I liberated myself from the criticisms coming from the men who could not be pleased with my physical qualities, that did not only undermine my esteem, they were killing my identity. My only guideline to follow now is to be happy with who I really am while I respect the rights of other people to be also happy. As I believe that learning is continuous, I make improvements but these should only bring me closer to the best version of myself.
Now, I am not only delightfully viewing the breadth of the beauty of this world, I am savoring this meaningful sense of completeness in me. I see the beauty in me even with those considered as imperfections or flaws. For these so called imperfections complete the loveliness in me. They are part of my charming attributes. In combination with my other traits, they make me the whole unique special package!
I now declare my meaningful perfect beauty to the world and my true love affair with myself. I am now embracing the whole of me and treating it with much kindness and care – the authentic ME that used to be covered with fears, disappointments and insecurities for years of not getting perfect in all aspects of my person against other people’s standards and that of the world. With this liberation, I am seeing more meaning in everything that is about me. I see that everything has a value. Everything in me is connected for it contributes to the mission I am called to do. I am called to love and inspire others and I am enough for this task. I am perfect for the purpose of which I am made.
- Minerva C. Roiles